“寂寞”，这是一个非常难于理解的词语。外语往往表达为“孤独”，但是，孤独却与寂寞有很大的不同，尽管构成寂寞的内容中有孤独的成分，也就是说，寂寞还应当有更加丰富的内涵。这从“寂寞”这个词的各字构成中可以看出来。

Loneliness is a very difficult word to understand. A foreign language is often expressed as "loneliness", but loneliness is very different from loneliness, although there is a lonely component in the content of loneliness, that is, loneliness should also have richer connotation. This can be seen in the composition of the word "loneliness".

1寂quiet：宀（家）family+叔。

古代家中父母生下有兄弟数人，老大、老二、老三、老四的叫法依次是：伯、仲、叔、季。老三，“叔”是排名在大哥（伯）、二哥（仲）之后的弟弟，已经结婚的大哥（伯）、二哥（仲）的配偶们（也叫“妯娌们”），就把他们叫着“小叔子”。现在，一些结婚的妇女称呼自己丈夫的兄弟，对比丈夫年长的称呼为“大伯哥”，对比丈夫年幼些的，就称呼为“小叔子”。

In ancient times, parents gave birth to a number of brothers, eldest, second, third, fourth name is in turn: Bo, Zhong, 叔、季（no uncle, season）. Third, "叔" is ranked in the elder brother (Bo伯), second brother (仲Zhong) brother, married elder brother ((Bo伯), second brother (仲Zhong) spouses (also known as "sister-in-law"), they called them "brother-in-law." Some married women now refer to their husbands' brothers, to their older husbands as "大伯哥", and to their younger husbands as "小叔子"

注意：“小叔子”不是“小叔父”的意思，“大伯哥”也不是“大伯父”的意思。两个称呼之间，恰恰是差一个辈分。

Note: "小叔子" does not mean "Uncle", nor does "大伯哥" mean "Uncle". The difference between the two forms of address is exactly one generation.

在古代，农民家庭因为经济困难，有兄弟三四个，一般情况下，父母给儿子老大、老二娶媳妇就已经精疲力尽了，而作为老三、老四的男孩子，就只好打光棍了。

In ancient times, because of financial difficulties, peasant families had three or four brothers. In general, parents gave their sons, eldest, and second wives were already exhausted, but as third and fourth boys, they had to be single.

汉朝开国皇帝刘邦，在家排行老三，刘太公就无钱给他娶媳妇。他娶媳妇，完全是因为他相貌堂堂，吸引吕太公注意，认为他今后是大人物，才将自己的女儿吕雉许配给他的。刘邦的家庭不是最困难的，尚且如此，其他农民家庭的老三老四娶不上媳妇，打光棍的就更加不足为奇了。

Liu Bang, the founding emperor of the Han Dynasty, ranked third at home, and Liu Taigong had no money to marry him. He married his wife simply because he was handsome and attracted Lu Tai-gong 's attention. He thought he would be a big man and gave him his daughter, Luzan Pheasant. Liu Bang's family is not the most difficult, even so, other peasant families the third fourth wife, the bachelor is not surprising.

寂字指的是，家中尚且未婚的小叔子，感情上很寂寞。一般农家，家中男孩多，往往能够给老大、老二结婚，而老三（叔）、老四（季）则往往难于结婚，或者很晚才能够结婚。作为没有结婚，等待结婚的男孩子，为家庭经济的困窘，为自己的婚姻大事而很伤神。

Silent word means that the young uncle, who is still unmarried at home, is very lonely emotionally. In general, there are many boys in the farm, who can often marry the eldest and the second, while the third (uncle) and the fourth (season) are often difficult to marry, or they can get married too late. As a boy who is not married and waiting to be married, he is distressed by the financial embarrassment of his family and by his marriage.

由寂字组成的词组有：寂静、寂寞、孤寂、寂寂、寂灭、寂默、寂寥（寂静空旷）等。

The phrases composed of silent words are：quiet  lonely、loneliness、still、fade out、still 、

 Solitary（Silence and emptiness）

2寞 quiet：宀（家）family+莫（大女孩子）Big girl。

家中已经长大，但是尚且未婚的小姑子（莫），感情上很寂寞。The family has grown up, but still unmarried sister-in-law (Mo), very lonely emotionally.

莫，古语通嫫，指的是未出父母亲家门、尚未结婚的大姑娘。如同现在称谓“姑娘”。在当今四川阿坝地区，藏族称呼妇女就叫她们“嫫”。不过，“嫫”分以下几种：“不嫫”，未婚姑娘；“已嫫”，已经结婚的妇女；“绝嫫”，不能够结婚的妇女，如尼姑等。

Mo, an old woman, refers to a big girl who has not left her parents' house and is not married. As is now called "girl". In today's Aba region of Sichuan, Tibetans call women "Mo". However, "Mo" can be divided into the following categories: "not a model", an unmarried girl, "an old woman", a woman who has been married, and a woman who cannot be married, such as a nun.

寞字指的是：家中青少年了，但是尚且未婚的小姑子，她在家里很孤单，感情上也很寂寞的。

Lonely word means: young people in the family, but even unmarried sister-in-law, she is very lonely at home, also very lonely emotionally.

由寞字组成的词组有：寂寞、寞寞、寞然、落寞、冷寞、孤寞等。

The phrases composed of lonely words are：lonely、Lonely、Lonely、lonely、Cold desolation、Lonely, etc.

3寂寞。据史书记载，中国的婚姻规矩很多，自从远古的黄帝时开始，女孩7岁开始就与父母不同席而睡，男女之间也有比较严格的婚姻制度。比如：同姓不婚；青年男女的婚姻大权操掌在父母手中，青年男女在婚姻上是做不了主的；如果没有“父母之命，媒妁之言”，青年男女是不能结婚的。那时规矩很多，其中最重要的就是所谓“男女授受不亲”了，也就是说，男女之间是不能随便接触的，不能发生身体肌体之间的接触的，甚至连握手都是不容许的，更别说西方的“接吻”、“拥抱”了，这对于青年男女也是这样。男女之间，特别是那些已经进入青春期但是没有结婚的青年男女们，在家庭外面有许多规矩，而在家庭里面同样规矩不少。

没有结婚的青年男女们，与父母在一起聊天又有代沟，而且，古代的老年人由于生活艰辛，寿命一般就是三四十岁，等到子女长大，自己就已经到垂暮之年了，身体也伤病累累，根本没有时间和精力与小儿女谈心。而兄嫂劳累一天还得带自己的孩子，也无暇顾及与小弟、小妹谈话。小弟小妹之间也有许多的规矩要遵守，也不是晚间可以随意聊天的。因此，这些小弟小妹都很孤独。

已经成长为大小伙、大姑娘，但还没有成婚的弟弟、妹妹，他们感情上的确很寂寞。财主家的大姑娘甚至还被锁在“闺房或者闺阁”之中，与外界男子相隔绝互不见面，以示守身如玉。而“闺”字的本义就是“门＋圭”组成，即门中的“圭”，家里的美玉。

寂寞这个词正是描写了以上这种情况。